It's no secret that men and women have different ways of communicating. But that does not mean there is no way to translate how the 'Mars' and 'Venus' speech.
"There is hope as long as you're willing to adjust your filter that is part of your brain that processes what he says," said Dr B Janet Hibbs, a psychologist, couples therapist and author Try to See It My Way, as quoted by Shine.
Know, communication problems often occur in the couple's relationship. Obviously, this is so you know how to cope with and can avoid it.
1. In a quarrel
In an argument, maybe you often hear him say an apology is sudden and not as sincere from the heart. Like, "I'm sorry you feel that way".
You may not hear the apology as sincere. Rather, as a justification that the problems and fights that happened was your fault. You may even think that the couple feel tired at you.
In fact, the intent of his words is that the fight to an end and not extended to other problems. In a fight, women tend to like to confuse the issue. Meanwhile, men have an instinct to resist, especially if he does not understand why you are angry.
2. In a complaint
You often complain about the work on the couple. However, sometimes often get a dismissive response from him. Is this true?
In fact, men tend to see themselves as problem solvers. So, what he said might be a solution short of trying he gave.
For example, you feel the work you do not balance with the price paid. Then, the couple only say simple things like, 'if you feel it's unfair, ask for a raise'. However, the sound in your ear is 'your problem is simple, finish it yourself'.
This makes you not feel that being said the couple is a solution. Indeed, as a matter of showing the nature acuhnya. In fact, he has helped you find a solution, although only a simple solution.
3. In a conversation
Women tend to tell things in a convoluted manner. All that can be said to be related to the length, but essentially very simple. Meanwhile, men do not process information that is too long with a broad overview.
Therefore, he often looks bored with a convoluted story. However, you catch the reaction as a sign that your story did not attract his attention. Try to condense a story on important points, you will get attention from him.
4. In a problem-solving
The 'Mars' is born by nature indifferent to trivial things. Meanwhile, the women or the 'Venus' requires a belief that the trivial will not interfere with their relationship.
Too much thinking, worrying about the little things make the problem much worse or even create new problems. The differences in perspective is what makes men and women are sometimes difficult to find agreement.
"There is hope as long as you're willing to adjust your filter that is part of your brain that processes what he says," said Dr B Janet Hibbs, a psychologist, couples therapist and author Try to See It My Way, as quoted by Shine.
Know, communication problems often occur in the couple's relationship. Obviously, this is so you know how to cope with and can avoid it.
1. In a quarrel
In an argument, maybe you often hear him say an apology is sudden and not as sincere from the heart. Like, "I'm sorry you feel that way".
You may not hear the apology as sincere. Rather, as a justification that the problems and fights that happened was your fault. You may even think that the couple feel tired at you.
In fact, the intent of his words is that the fight to an end and not extended to other problems. In a fight, women tend to like to confuse the issue. Meanwhile, men have an instinct to resist, especially if he does not understand why you are angry.
2. In a complaint
You often complain about the work on the couple. However, sometimes often get a dismissive response from him. Is this true?
In fact, men tend to see themselves as problem solvers. So, what he said might be a solution short of trying he gave.
For example, you feel the work you do not balance with the price paid. Then, the couple only say simple things like, 'if you feel it's unfair, ask for a raise'. However, the sound in your ear is 'your problem is simple, finish it yourself'.
This makes you not feel that being said the couple is a solution. Indeed, as a matter of showing the nature acuhnya. In fact, he has helped you find a solution, although only a simple solution.
3. In a conversation
Women tend to tell things in a convoluted manner. All that can be said to be related to the length, but essentially very simple. Meanwhile, men do not process information that is too long with a broad overview.
Therefore, he often looks bored with a convoluted story. However, you catch the reaction as a sign that your story did not attract his attention. Try to condense a story on important points, you will get attention from him.
4. In a problem-solving
The 'Mars' is born by nature indifferent to trivial things. Meanwhile, the women or the 'Venus' requires a belief that the trivial will not interfere with their relationship.
Too much thinking, worrying about the little things make the problem much worse or even create new problems. The differences in perspective is what makes men and women are sometimes difficult to find agreement.
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